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When do I use the Spanish tú or usted?

This a very common question that comes up among expats learning Spanish.

What Does Tú and Usted Mean in English?

Both tú and usted are Spanish for the word: you.

Unlike in English, the word “you” in Spanish comes in two varieties: tú (informal) and usted (formal). And while the rules might seem straight forward, it won’t be intuitive for native English speakers.

• Tú (Informal): Generally speaking, you’ll use tú when addressing close friends, peers, and children.
• Usted (Formal): You’ll use usted with employers, strangers, and people who are older than you.

The sierra region of Ecuador ( and Quito) is quite formal – often defaulting to the formal. In contrast, the coastal regions of  (and much of Central America) are informal and automatically default to the informal tú.

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When to Use the Spanish Tú or Usted

Watch on

The question of whether to use tú or usted doesn’t only confuse expats. The act of using the informal tú even has it’s own verb: tutearse. According to SpanishDict, means to address each other as “tú”. As we developed relationships in Ecuador, friends would often say “tutearme,” because they wanted us to speak to them in the informal. In Cuenca, this is significant and means that you’re gaining the trust of the person.

People raised on Ecuador’s coast, will often address almost everyone they meet informally. And, we’ve seen parents in Cuenca address their children with the formal usted. There is no rule – except to be aware of how it’s done locally.

It’s usually safest to use the formal at first. You can ask individuals what they prefer. Or just listen for how the locals address each other in public settings.

Your Turn

What tips (or stories) do you have to share about using tú or usted?